Tuesday, 31 May 2016

Coaching Camino

Change changes you. Isn't it true.

And that's what I observed in some beautiful tales of journeying in the stunning documentary Walking the Camino, Six Ways to Santiago, that I watched last week.

It helped me to ponder on the Coaching Camino's I witness with my coachees while on their coaching journey with me. An opportunity, for change, changing them, authentically.

The Camino de Santiago. Described as 500 miles. A Journey of faith. A journey to self.

Just like therapeutic coaching. Through Change. A Coaching Camino beckoning. For transforming.

Many years ago a colleague said something to me, and it has remained with me. He said that we live like ghosts...essentially going to work, going through the motions, unconsciously accepting societal notions, and commotions. Living in auto-mode. Dying.

And for many it is true.

Something is missing. A hole in the soul deepening. Devoid of a richness, of life experience. And the sensations it brings. Of the joy of learning, and challenging where we have been, and making the changes, that are needed, to come alive within.

For 1200 years the Camino de Santiago has been walked. And I marvelled at the descriptions of the process...it's not easy, it's not always sunshine, it can be rain, there are parts of the road that are difficult, it's not a stroll, it's not just about arriving at a place. It's living, it's feeling. It is indeed like transitional therapeutic coaching can be, if taken seriously. It is real. In the moment true, to the person, as they peel away what seems gruesome.

And as everyone is trying to be somebody. I like to remind them that they already are somebody. And to seek and find that somebody that they are already. And may have forgotten. Those parts that have laid dormant. That deeper edge that has gone missing along the way. That wants to come out to play again. The bigger Self that's already there. That wishes to come alive.

To me Life itself is a Camino. A marvellous opportunity to live deeply and appreciatively along the travelling no matter how hard or easy. And I wrote about it previously in my blog Pilgrimage Begin. You can read it here.

And as the film reiterated so beautifully...

'It's an internal Camino. It's a process toward the heart, towards what's inside, and we discover the expanded universe'.

'Transcending corporeal concerns and celebrating the hero within'.

That's where it begins.

And that's why I love what I do, helping people come to see that it's true. Being their witness. Seeing them do extraordinary things, both small and big, in their dreams and schemes. Awakening to the possibilities that has, and can present for them. In the trials and tribulations they surmount, the roadblocks they encounter, and the combination of action and surrender, that come about for them. Working through to their next world view.

Profound moments often present as people travel their unique Coaching Camino's. The transformation it brings, the opportunity to change...and to live again. When their Pilgrimage Begins.

SaraSwati Shakti
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Tuesday, 17 May 2016

Sprints, And Marathons

Dealing with the emotional elements of change is like running Sprints, and Marathons, in the psyches of people adjusting.

And assisting coachees to manage change and transition has a number of very important elements.

When people are dealing with personal and professional events, such as a redundancy, leaving work to have a new baby, entering the workforce initially, returning to work after maternity leave, dealing with a death in the family, finding themselves in corporate restructuring, managing a challenging divorce, dealing with an illness, any number of things, there is an adjustment necessary.

And a beautiful emotional component of loving that is important to be incorporating. Because we are human beings.

Each adjustment can require subtle manouvering around emotions and decision-making. And there can be a need for dealing with a number of concurrent events that can be triggering.

Anyone who has ever dealt with, or supported someone with, the intricacies of planning a funeral after a death in the family, knows how taxing it can be, and exhausting emotionally.

Anyone who has returned to the workforce after having a baby, understands the tugs of loyalty between work and family, and finding the balance that is so necessary, particularly if there have been birthing and growing difficulties.

Anyone who has experienced an unexpected redundancy knows the importance of acquiring skills, and stamina, for applying for new things. And the managing of rejections, perseverence, and persistence it often brings.

Change entails decision-making, and action taking. Sprints, and Marathons regularly.

Managing the pressure to continue, adequately dealing with the processes of feeling, accepting the tasks of preparing, repairing, and self motivating, is a fine human art, of the mind, and heart.

And working co-operatively with coachees, for emotional resilience, and brilliance, becomes an important process.

As human beings, emotional resilience, is important. And self-compassion, to get through the many aspects and challenges of changing, and adjusting, to new conditions, needs pacing. Because emotional, and physical Sprints, And Marathons are usually racing. And need managing.

It often surprises me that people need permission, to take it easier, to seek help, to care for themselves, to manage their anxieties, and to calm themselves in storms of emotionality. Perhaps it is a function of a perfectionist, driven, society that doesn't recognise the importance of feeling, and loving, in adjusting.

Taking time to self-care, and to live more beautifully and self-appreciatively through changes, is a human necessity. Self-compassion an ideal, and essential, reality.

Therapuetic coaching can assist with this. It gives the space to help manage the pace, and keep moving forward through the highs and lows, optimally, and gently.

I help people learn to take care of themselves through the Sprints, and Marathons, of change, and adjustments, in which they find themselves. And taking adequate steps to re-create their optimum, in new circumstances, again.

SaraSwati Shakti
Copyright © 2016. All rights reserved.

Monday, 2 May 2016

Joy on every page

It is not often you find yourself mentioned in someone else's story. Someone else's book. Yet that was what I found after the release of a book titled Whole Wild World. A book launched recently, and written by my cousin, Tom Dusevic. It tells the story of a boy growing up in suburban Sydney in the 1970's.

I had only recently written a blog titled Tell me your story, and here I was finding myself immersed in the story that was Tom's. It is a delightful book. And it reminded me how much we each influence others' stories. And how little we really know of the power that we have in the weaving of another.

It is a wonderful book, of individual growth, and the relationships that form major developmental creations in a human being.

I loved it.

And it has taken me down memory lane again, with my own family, and their dynamics.

When coaching people in the process of their own storytelling I sometimes touch on family dynamics. Family dynamics can so obviously, and subtley, play out in adulthood, and in families, relationships, and workplaces consciously, and unconsciously. It's a wonderful way to identify with people how their behaviours are impacting the world around them today. And what they wish to enhance, or release, in the process along the way. What actions we choose to take, as we evolve and create, always evolves our identity in our growing process, no matter how old we may be.

Tom's book is a beautiful read. Of the intricacies of identity, and the tug-o-war familiar to how many of us somehow perceive our own lives to be, each uniquely. It is a joy on every page, so well described on the cover sleeve.

Tom spoke about our pastimes, in childhood. My attention was drawn to my own appearance in it. Of playtime bliss. Of families, schools and colouring. And in the reading, it was lovely for me personally, to contemplate, how my inner child is still alive and well in my own big wild world today. My family, continuous learning, and colouring, a key feature of my adulting. My life work and pastimes, as blissful soul food, in my continually inspirational evolving adulthood neighbourhood. A delightful surprise in the re-reading of story from someone else's perspective.

For those of you interested in reading Tom's book Whole Wild World, details can be found here

I hope you each get a chance to continue to tap into the joy and wealth of your own memory lane as you too are living and telling your own story. In it's intricate unfolding. And wonderful weaving. Turning the page, daily, in a joyful offering.

Much love

SaraSwati Shakti